10 Tips For Healthy RelationshipsAdeshola Ezeokoli
- No man is an island. You need people and they need you
2. Define your relationships, at least to yourself. Know who are your friends, colleagues/ business partners; mentors, proteges, and acquaintances. Not everyone that you know is a friend.
3. A friend is truthful, trustworthy, and is someone you can count if you are going through a trial.
4. You cannot be more committed to another person’s growth and change, than they are. That is not friendship, that is savior behavior. You cannot help person change until they are willing to change. Feeling guilty about it will help neither you or them. Refer them to a professional or, if you are getting emotionally drained; keep your distance.
5. Avoid relationships that drain you. If you are constantly walking on eggshells, trying to figure out what to say around a person; wondering whether they approve of you or not; always trying to please and still falling short; watch out!
6. Associate with people that build you up! Your core group, your inner circle, your front row should not have just anyone in it. You need to be selective about who you allow to get close to you. Positive people, true friends (see point 3. above); encouragers, refiners, refreshers are those that should be close to you.
7. Be the change. Be a good friend; an honest business partner; and authentic mentor; a non intrusive acquaintance; a team-playing colleague. It makes me laugh when I see mean jerks complaining about how the whole world (seemingly) has wronged them.
8. Love does not mean be a doormat for the world to walk over. Love yourself too. If you do not see your worth and carry yourself like someone of worth; no one else will.
9. Guard your heart. Don’t let bitterness and resentment reside in there.It may be hard, but refuse to live a life filled with offense. You will get offended, but with prayer, a little mental toughness; and someone to vent to, you will be fine. Living happy is your best “weapon”.
10. Relax. Life is a journey. People come and go. No need to hold on to what is no more. Relationships should be organic, and not forced. Put in some effort where needed to maintain your close relationships. Be kind to everyone you meet.