balance

Marriage- The “give and take” fallacy

In marriages today, after the initial “honeymoon” excitement has worn off, people can start to get selfish. Where they once lived to please the other person, now it’s just a case of, “Well you aren’t meeting my needs”; or “I’ll do this when you do that”; or “I will submit to him when he loves me the way I want to be loved”. What I call The Give And Take Fallacy comes into play. This is where spouses decide […]

LIFE IN BALANCE-New Year Resolutions or Realistic Goal Setting?

There is nothing magical, spiritually significant, or special about the first day of January except the significance that we ourselves attach to it. I like to remind myself that the Gregorian calendar is man made and was a reform of a previous calendar( the Julian calendar) which was itself a reform of the Roman calendar . There are also in use many different calendars( the lunar calendar, Igbo calendar, Hebrew calendar, the Chinese calendar, etc) in use, side by […]

LIFE IN BALANCE- I have a secret

Continuing from last post……
4.Wisdom: Trust God for wisdom to deal with the situation; wisdom for wise counsel; and wisdom for true friends in your time of crisis. Use wisdom to truly know the difference between a big problem and a minor issue that does not need to be talked about.
5.Seek help, not catharsis: Is it better to vent your feelings to your blabber mouth friends; or to talk to a trustworthy person who will not divulge? Is it […]

LIFE IN BALANCE- I have a secret

So. We have all been there. You have a problem. It could be a sin. It could be a bad habit. It could be a challenge. It could be the weight of guilt and shame for things that you did or were done to you in the past. Whatever it is, it is hard to deal with. You need someone to talk to. You need help working through the issue or the bitter, hard emotions that come with it. […]

LIFE IN BALANCE- Rest is not an option

Do you rest?
No, I am not talking about working yourself into the ground and falling asleep, stuporous on your sofa. I read a book on leadership by Reverend Nolan McCants and ironically, the first chapter is on rest!
In today’s crazy world, with busy schedules, school, work, home, marriage, children, church, volunteer commitments etc, how do we get ourselves some rest?
1. Not an option: Rest is not just another option. It is compulsory. If you are over scheduled, but all […]