Balance With Dr. Shola: Discovering Your Calling

Welcome back to Balance with Dr Shola! 
Do you want to walk in your purpose and calling? 
How do you know what it is?
I follow Michael Hyatt and I listened to one of his podcasts which revolutionized my thinking as far as calling is concerned. I am one of those few people who discovered my calling early in life and I have consistently worked towards it. Little did I know that there are are practical steps that you can take, questions […]

5 Tips For Relationship Success

I hope that you are enjoying your PDF’s and most importantly applying them to your life. Today I would like to share a few relationship tips, that can ensure success in your relationships. I am talking specifically about non-marital relationships, although some of these can apply in marriage too.

1. You are equal. All men are created equal, in humanity. No one is superior to another person in their humanity, self worth, importance, and God’s love for them. Remembering this […]

10 Quotes That Changed My Life

Welcome back to Balance with Dr Shola!
Do you have any particular quotes or sayings that have been life changing for you?

Here are 10 quotes that make me think every time I read, or hear them:

1.Do something everyday that brings you closer to fulfilling your dream. Do not dedicate more to fulfilling the dreams of others than your own.

2.Marriage isn’t a passion-fest; it’s more like a partnership formed to run a very small, mundane, nonprofit business.

3. If you are approval […]

The Balanced Marriage: The Five Pillars Of Marital Bliss


Welcome back to Balance with Dr Shola! As promised, I will be doing more posts along the lines of marriage, and this is an introduction to:


(The Five Pillars of Balanced: Marriage Edition)If you are familiar with the concept of  balanced living, the you will realize that anyone who is living a fulfilled life is to some degree living a balanced life, taking care of the five pillars of balance, namely: physical health, mental soundness, emotional wellness, spiritual […]

Introduction To The Five Pillars of Balance

“Man is a spirit being, has a soul and lives in a body”.
From this statement come the concept of balance, balanced living and the five pillars of balance. Like the fingers on each hand the five pillars represent core aspects of YOU, that if not taken care of can lead to an unfulfilled life, broken dreams and heartbreak. The five pillars of balance are the foundation of your very self and being. They are as follows:


Your spiritual life […]

Disbelieve Disempowering Narratives

Happy Monday
This week I will be addressing another pillar of balance: 
Mental  Soundness and Wholeness
What do you think? Seriously, what occupies your thoughts?
Do you spend all your mental energy believing disempowering narratives?
What do I mean?
Not all thoughts that come to your head are meant to be accepted. If your thoughts do not serve God, serve you or serve your highest purpose, you may need to take a step back and change the way you think.
For example: “I never catch a […]

After All I Have Done For You

After All I Have Done For You….
This week I have decided to talk about relationships, not marital relationships per se, just the relationships that we find ourselves in. Relational Balance is one of the aspects of Balanced Living.
Lately, scenarios like this have been pooping up on my radar-
A relationship goes south (any relationship: BFF/BFF; doctor/patient; pastor/congregant; mentor/protegee, brother/sister).I purposely left romantic relationships out of this equation due to their own particular complexities.
One party takes to either social media or […]