The Balanced Marriage: The Five Pillars Of Marital Bliss


Welcome back to Balance with Dr Shola! As promised, I will be doing more posts along the lines of marriage, and this is an introduction to:


(The Five Pillars of Balanced: Marriage Edition)If you are familiar with the concept of  balanced living, the you will realize that anyone who is living a fulfilled life is to some degree living a balanced life, taking care of the five pillars of balance, namely: physical health, mental soundness, emotional wellness, spiritual […]

A Open Letter To An Engaged Couple

Dear Engaged Couple,
Congratulations on your engagement! I am so glad to be able to write this letter to you and I’m happy to be a part of your experience. You see, I have had the opportunity to counsel many of you over the years. It is great to see young people starting on this journey called marriage. I love being married to my husband, Dozie. We have been married for ten years and our love for each other is […]

3 Massive Mistakes That Can Cost You Your Marriage

A chain is only as strong as its weakest link. In a marriage both partners have to work together to strengthen each other, and as such, strengthen the marriage. Unfortunately many marriages break up because the fundamental things that should be taken care of are left to chance, at best; or willfully ignored, at the worst. If your marriage is to stand a chance of survival you must, at all costs avoid these three mistakes.

The mistake of not forgiving: 

What […]

What If… ? 7 Life Changing Questions

What if?
What if we changed our beliefs about certain things and the way we see life? What if we stopped leaving life to chance (calling it “leaving it to God”)? In some (and at times, all) areas of life, we sometimes sit on the fence instead of taking action. Sometimes we say that we “are praying about it”. At other times we bury our heads in the sand and remain in denial. My Pastor Mayowa Ijisesan preached a most […]

14 Tips for “Romancing” Your Spouse

Romance is essential to any marriage. You do not want to wake up one morning and find that you barely have any feelings for your spouse. Additionally, romance is what makes marriage fun. It is what makes the difference between a spouse and a room mate (sex does that too, but that is another story).
The idea is that romance is supposed to be thoughtful, fun, creative and not necessarily practical.
1. Find out your spouse’s love language and speak […]

Our Love

If you think you don’t like poetry, you haven’t met the right poem. I hope this is the right one for you. Enjoy!
We walk:
Hand in hand, across the sands of time,
Sharing, strengthening, supporting;
Moving ahead towards our destiny.
We dance:
Cheek to cheek, across the dance floor of experience,
Growing, gaining, giving life our all;
Twirling to the songs of our hearts.
We laugh:
Loud and long, at the comedies life brings,
Relaxing, playing, going on new adventures;
And chuckling at our own private jokes.

5 Sure Ways To Make Your Marriage Hell On Earth

Marriage was designed to be heaven on earth but if you do the following things consistently, you will be sure to have a marriage from hell!
I had the privilege of listening to Pastor Ezekiel Atang, a well known speaker on the subject of marriage and here are some of the things he shared at one of his meetings
1. Not giving God His place in your home:
God is to be acknowledged in our homes , not just in church. You […]

Yay! You’re Engaged! Now What?

My husband and I run the marriage ministry of our local church and as such, one of the things we do is pre-marital counselling for engaged couples. We hear people’s stories and we get to share with them some of our experiences along this marriage journey. Of course, we do not have it all figured out, but if you are getting married, here are a few tips that will help you along your engagement journey.
1. Know yourself: If […]