We all have dreams, hopes, goals and aspirations. The things that prevent their realization are not always what we think they are.
Listen to your inner voice and do not let it be drowned out by the following dream killer:
Listening to the voices of naysayers:
I know of a woman who lost 200 lbs after gastric bypass and gained it back after her friends started to tell her she was “getting too small”. Her starting weight was 400 lbs, by the way. Naysayers. When my husband and I started dating, I could have made a pile of money, collecting a penny for everyone who told me that our relationship would not work. Naysayers. When I left Nigeria for England, to take qualifying exams, I heard a few people say that the PLAB exam was impossible to pass. Naysayers.
Naysayers are very powerful. Their power, however derives from the amount of say that we let them have in our lives. A person who constantly steps all over your dreams, preaching doom and gloom; and as such, prevents you from achieving what you set out to achieve, is no friend. Learn to distinguish between honest feedback, and the haters who just want to pull you down. Honest friends, even when they do not agree with you, or cannot understand your dream, can usually give you an explanation and reasons why x,y or z may not be a good idea. Naysayers on the other hand, are usually derisive, have no alternative to offer you, and no real reason for putting down your dreams. Sometimes they may be people who have seen you fail in the past. Some may be people who are in a place that you are trying to leave, eg a bad neighborhood, two hundred pounds of weight or drug addiction.
Whatever their reasons may be for being Debbie Downers, you need to rise above their voices and find positive associations who will hold you accountable for what you are trying to achieve. You have to develop focus, like never before, if the voices around you are less than affirming. Recognizing naysayers and haters for who they are, will help you decide what voices to listen to.
Your dreams are waiting for you to act. Will you sacrifice them to negative people? Will you deprive yourself and your world of your ideas, because of doubters? Instead of hanging out with people who bring you down, start to associate with people who will pull you up, encourage you; and believe in your dreams, your change, your transformation.
Say NO to naysayers.
“Don’t think that just because you made it to the next level that the haters and naysayers disappear. Remember, new levels bring new devils.”
― Steve Maraboli