HOW DO YOU DO IT? Lessons From My LifeAdeshola Ezeokoli
A lot of people have asked me the question:
How do you do it? They ask me this referring to the fact that I have a full time job as a doctor; I have authored and published three books; I am a pastors wife, and a mother of two girls. I currently head three departments/groups at my church. I also write a blog and together with my husband, conduct pre marital counseling sessions for couples getting married at our church. I do not feel overwhelmed at any of this, having decided a long time ago, that “feeling overwhelmed” was not going to be a part of my vocabulary. The truth is, by realizing some things, you will come to understand that you too can do as much as you need to live your dreams and help your world. You will recognize that you do not have to live in survival mode all the time ie : work-home-sleep-wake up-work-home-sleep-wake up, etc. I actually know people who live like this! The other day someone called my “second career”(writing) a “hobby”. I corrected him very sweetly and said to him: it’s a calling. Once a friend of mine told me that I lived a regimented life. I took it as a compliment. Here are a few points to ponder:
1. You will always be busy:
You will always be busy, but like everyone else, you have 24 hours in a day. I have 24 hours, you have 24 hours, Barack Obama has 24 hours, the housewife has 24 hours, the CEO has 24 hours. What will you spend your doing? Will you spend it just going to work and coming back home and sleeping in on Saturdays and Sundays? Or will you look outside of survival mode and start to take steps to impact your world? I wrote my first book during residency in a program that is possibly one of the most grueling in the country. I wrote my second book with two children under the age of six. Refuse to just survive.
2. The grace of God is available for you:
Are you in Christ? Then His grace is sufficient for you. If God has given you a dream, an idea, a calling, a vision, He has also given the grace to do it and will show you what to do. Let me give you an example of my busiest day: Tuesday. I wake up in the morning between 4:30 and 5:00 am and I go to the gym. I come back around 6 am and take a shower. Pray with the hubby, and spend about 30 minutes to an hour tidying up. My husband and I have breakfast together and sometimes I make phone calls, usually business calls. I usually take my younger daughter to a class that goes from 10:30 to noon. When I take her back home, I pack my lunch and head to work, which is of course, busy. I leave work at 7:30pm to make it back home(usually by 8:30) to counsel an engaged couple. Counselling ends at about 10-10:30 pm and it’s bed time. I’m telling you, I could not live through a Tuesday without the knowledge that God is with me every step of the way, and God is with me as I go through the day and do the things I am meant to do. There is grace for you to help you through each day, and each task that you have to do.
3. You need sheer grit and focus:
When I feel my focus is slipping, I remind myself of the reasons why I am doing what I am doing. I do not wait for someone to prop me up. Now, I am not saying that you have to pretend to be Marlboro Man, a loner, a person who needs no one. No. What I am saying, is, be your own primary cheerleader instead of relying on others to be your motivation. Take whatever encouragement, advice, pep-talks and mentoring you can get; but in those dark times when you want to quit, or are afraid to start, you need to remind yourself of “the whys”. As Michael Hyatt says: What is at stake if you do? What is at stake if you don’t?
4. You need to be vigilant about managing your time:
I got this picture courtesy of Terri Savelle-Foy. You do not have as much time as you think you have. In the same vein, you have more time than you think you have. Look at the picture above. You will see that you probably have roughly five hours in a day to pursue the dreams that God placed in your heart; to do more than shuffle between survival mode and the TV. There are practical ways of managing your time. Most time when people hear the phrase, time management, and think, no fun, no TV, I have to work on “my dream” all the time. Not true. With the time management tips I use and advocate (I’m still a work in progress), you get to have fun and live life to the fullest, and yet not waste a minute. I will talk about these in the next post.
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