LIFE IN BALANCE- I have a secretAdeshola Ezeokoli
Continuing from last post……
4.Wisdom: Trust God for wisdom to deal with the situation; wisdom for wise counsel; and wisdom for true friends in your time of crisis. Use wisdom to truly know the difference between a big problem and a minor issue that does not need to be talked about.
5.Seek help, not catharsis: Is it better to vent your feelings to your blabber mouth friends; or to talk to a trustworthy person who will not divulge? Is it better to vent your feelings to your well-meaning but overly emotional friends or to talk to an objective pastor, counsellor or mentor? If you need to talk to a medical professional, by all means do so. The point is to seek help, not catharsis.
6. Don’t hang on to the past: After you have “gone through” , go on. Do not let past tragedy, guilt, shame and defeat define you. Do not hang on to your old hurts; do not replay your past mistakes. Do everything you can not to stay in a bitter, stuck, resentful place.
7. Help others with your story: Your past can help others heal, even if it is just to encourage them; to show others that there is light at the end of the tunnel. However, all sharing should be done in wisdom. To help others by using yourself as an example, you have to have successfully “won” whatever “battle” it is you were facing. Do not use “helping others” as an excuse to tell all and sundry about your woes( see previous post).
Have a blessed week!