LIFE IN BALANCE- I have a secretAdeshola Ezeokoli
So. We have all been there. You have a problem. It could be a sin. It could be a bad habit. It could be a challenge. It could be the weight of guilt and shame for things that you did or were done to you in the past. Whatever it is, it is hard to deal with. You need someone to talk to. You need help working through the issue or the bitter, hard emotions that come with it. Whom do you talk to? Should you tell anyone at all?
This will help:
1. Talk to God: For starters, tell God what your problems are and trust Him for a solution. God is big enough to dissolve your issues into nothingness and give you peace over things of the past. In Christ there is no guilt and shame, no condemnation. Talk to God about your feelings and trust Him to take your pain and turn it into joy.
2 Don’t tell all to all: Do not run from person to person, rehearsing your problems, issues, failures and guilt. Where did we all get the idea that the more we talk about a problem, they better we feel? That is really not true. For starters, that is a sure way to perpetuate the problem. Secondly, you will hear all kinds of different opinions which will confuse you. Third, not everyone has your best interests at heart and some people may purposefully give you wrong advice.
3. Don’t tell nothing to no one: Do not stuff your stuff. Negative emotions buried alive only eat you up inside and come out in negative ways, affecting your physical, mental, emotional and spiritual health. If you are in over your head, find a trusted person, who you look up to and talk to them. Everyone needs someone to talk to at certain points in their lives. Seeking help does not mean you are weak. Talking to someone does NOT mean talk to all and sundry.
…..to be continued……