LIFE IN BALANCE-Single to Married 2Adeshola Ezeokoli
1.Forsaking all others: “Forsaking all others”, is one of the lines contained in one version of the traditional marriage vows. This means that you are not to have a relationship similar to a marital relationship with anyone else. It does not speak only about physical sexual infidelity; I believe that it covers emotional affairs also. See Making your marriage affair proof.It is actually emotional affairs that lead to physical affairs, anyway. As a married person
you are not to bare your soul, let alone your body to anyone else. Wanna play footloose and fancy free? Then do not get married, it is simple. Do you have a “best friend” of the opposite sex? This is not a good idea, especially if you are married. Down the line the “best friend” could become more than just that. A married person is to leave behind any relationships that can usurp the marital one.
2. Grow up: You are no longer a child. You are married/ getting married. The Bible says, when I became a man I put childish ways behind me. Put away childish habits. Be responsible. If you never saved, open a savings account. If you used to go out and come in as you please, at all odd hours of the night, stop and start coming home early. If Mama used to do everything for you, man up! Woman up! Stand on your own two feet! If you run to every Tom, Dick and Harry with your problems, sit down and start to solve your own issues. If you always run to your Pastor to pray for you when you have a hint of a challenge, sit down and learn to call upon God for yourself. If you live with your parents, try to get your own place, even if it is a small one that is not too expensive. Grow up! If you are inflexible and you have a “my way or the highway” approach to life, it is childish! It is not a sign of determination or maturity. It just means that you are insecure. Everyone should be ready to listen to the opinion and views of their spouse; your spouse’s opinion might save you one day.
3.Plan ahead: Actually, whether you are single or married you should have a plan for your life. However, this is crucial once you are planning to get married. Do not just let life happen to you. Have a plan for your day, a plan for your week, a plan for your month, a plan for your year. This is really important for men, because you are the head of the home. Ask yourself: where do I see myself in two years? Where do I see myself in ten years? Have a plan for your spiritual life( eg read the Bible in a year). Have a plan for your job and career. Have a plan to improve yourself as a person. Have a plan for your finances( eg I will not use credit cards anymore). Learn to plan ahead.
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That’s all friends, have a blessed one.