LIFE IN BALANCE-Staying Married 4Adeshola Ezeokoli
Taking the other person for granted: When was the last time you told your husband or wife that you love them? When was the last time that you went out of your way to do something special for them? When was the last time you had a romantic getaway? Do you know your partner’s love language?
You need to treat your spouse as though they are special( because they are, they married you with all you drama, and fault and foibles). Do not ever get to a point where your spouse is “common” to you. Do not get so wrapped up in the grind, the day-to-day, survival, the rat race, or whatever, that you neglect your wife or husband. “But she knows I love her”. Oh hush! Your spouse ( especially wives) need to hear, on a daily basis, words of love and affirmation as well as see corresponding actions. Is this hard? Not really, it is only a matter of perspective. If your marriage is important to you, you will invest time, energy, passion and money into it. If you have to sacrifice a few wants to please your spouse, is that hard? People sacrifice for their education, self improvement, career, ministry, church, hobbies, children, and neglect their marriage. People are willing to give their all to an interest, a cause or a purpose, but leave their marriage floundering like a beached whale. Why is this? Maybe we do not realize that like everything else, marriage is what we make of it. We leave our marriages to chance when, instead of working to build our relationship, we just assume everything will somehow “just work out”.
If you have fallen into the trap of taking your spouse for granted, make up your mind to put an end to it. If your spouse is saying, I feel ignored, or, don’t you love me anymore, or, our marriage is boring; please listen to their heart. They are trying to pass across a message: I feel taken for granted.
Sex: The need for a healthy sexual relationship in a marriage cannot be over emphasized. There is more to sexual intimacy than just the physical. We need to know and understand the differences between men and women when it comes to sex. Read books, study your partner, learn what it takes to be a good lover, to your husband or wife.
See the following
1. Woman on Top 1
2. Woman on Top 2
3. Doggy Style
4. Sex tips for married men 2
5. Love Sex and Romance, busting the myths
6. The Missionary Position
In conclusion I will say this about sex: Do it often, do it well.
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Have a blessed one!