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The Balanced Marriage: The Five Pillars Of Marital Bliss


Welcome back to Balance with Dr Shola! As promised, I will be doing more posts along the lines of marriage, and this is an introduction to:


(The Five Pillars of Balanced: Marriage Edition)If you are familiar with the concept of  balanced living, the you will realize that anyone who is living a fulfilled life is to some degree living a balanced life, taking care of the five pillars of balance, namely: physical health, mental soundness, emotional wellness, spiritual […]

A Open Letter To An Engaged Couple

Dear Engaged Couple,
Congratulations on your engagement! I am so glad to be able to write this letter to you and I’m happy to be a part of your experience. You see, I have had the opportunity to counsel many of you over the years. It is great to see young people starting on this journey called marriage. I love being married to my husband, Dozie. We have been married for ten years and our love for each other is […]

3 Massive Mistakes That Can Cost You Your Marriage

A chain is only as strong as its weakest link. In a marriage both partners have to work together to strengthen each other, and as such, strengthen the marriage. Unfortunately many marriages break up because the fundamental things that should be taken care of are left to chance, at best; or willfully ignored, at the worst. If your marriage is to stand a chance of survival you must, at all costs avoid these three mistakes.

The mistake of not forgiving: 

What […]

An Open Letter to A Man

Empower Your Wife
Dear man,
I would like to invite you on a journey. How do you relate to your wife or fiancée with regards to her dreams, passions and visions? Are you empowering her or are you discouraging her?
Let me share this quick story.
One day I was standing with a group of men just chatting, and I started to speak about some of the things I was doing, with one of the gentlemen. As I was talking about my […]

5 Sure Ways To Make Your Marriage Hell On Earth

Marriage was designed to be heaven on earth but if you do the following things consistently, you will be sure to have a marriage from hell!
I had the privilege of listening to Pastor Ezekiel Atang, a well known speaker on the subject of marriage and here are some of the things he shared at one of his meetings
1. Not giving God His place in your home:
God is to be acknowledged in our homes , not just in church. You […]

10 Marriage Truths That You Must Know

Are you getting married? The Bible says and I paraphrase, that we are to count the cost of any venture that we are about to enter into. Too many people get married without preparing for some of its realities.
What does it mean to be married?
1. It means you take responsibility for another human being’s well being and happiness. Naturally you expect the same treatment, but you do not demand it.
2. It means that you give your spouse the best […]

LIFE IN BALANCE- Hot Sex Tips for Married Couples

Hot Sex tips for married couples.
Sex is the glue that holds marriage together. As a blogger on marriage and relationships, I will every now and then blog about this all important, yet almost taboo topic. Here are a few tips to remember about sex in marriage. Read on.
1. Love is everything: Love, not the hollywood kind, real love, has to be the basis of your love making. You cannot leave the sum total of your love life out of […]

LIFE IN BALANCE- Four types of love

Since it is my wedding anniversary week, I have decided to blog about love, as it relates to marriage. If you have been following this blog( and if not, please go ahead and subscribe 🙂 ), you would probably have noticed that I have written, a few times in the past, about the fact that it takes more that just emotional love to sustain a marriage.