Who are my real friends? Part 1Adeshola Ezeokoli
They can sometimes be the bane of our lives, especially if they are not skillfully managed. Before I go any further, I would just like to say that no matter the relationship, people are people and will disappoint you from time to time. Study the relationships in your life. They are either adding to you or taking away from you. I will be talking about 5 different types of relationships. This is key in categorizing, if you will, the people who come and go in your life. Needless to say there are no firm demarcations between them and people cross back and forth as the seasons in our lives change.
1) Friends: Not everyone in your life is a friend. A friend is someone you can trust. If you cannot trust someone to a certain degree, they are not your friend. You share something with someone and they broadcast your story repeatedly. That is not a friend. A friend will tell you the truth, a friend will encourage you but will not be afraid to give you a reality check. A relationship based on externals and superficial things is not a real friendship. Some people have no friends, all they have are acquaintances and hangers-on, people who want something from them. A friend will love you, recognize your imperfections, and still stand by you. Friends uplift you, they do not pull you down.True friends are hard to find.
2) Acquaintances: If a lot of us were truthful with ourselves, we would realize that many so called friends are just acquaintances. Acquaintances are people you know, people you may hang out with from time to time, people whom you run into at parties and make small talk with. We do not know them as well as we do our friends. We all have, and need acquaintances. Most, if not all, friends start off as acquaintances. Do not hold acquaintances to the same standard as you hold friends and do not be quick to get disappointed in them.
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