Why You Should Write Your ObituaryAdeshola Ezeokoli
What do you want people to say about you when you are dead and gone? What will they say about you when you are dead and gone? Is what you want them to say going to be what they will actually say? Will they say anything at all? What do you want to be remembered for? At the rate you are going, will you actually be remembered for those things, that you want to be remembered for? That is the whole point of this exercise. It is one way to test and see if your life is moving in the right direction.
Now, writing your obituary should always be from the perspective of how you blessed others. So leave out things like, “she was a millionaire” unless it is related to how your being a millionaire helped and enriched other people. Write down everything that you want people to say about you. Next, look at what you have written and compare it to your life. See how much it matches up and start to make necessary changes.
If you want people to say: here lies a family man, then having four girlfriends is not the way to achieve this. If you want people to say: she was friendly, and you scowl every time someone says, “Hello” to you; you might want to revise your current behavior. If you want people to say, here lies a giver, then do not be stingy. If you want people to say, he treated everyone as equals; do not look down on other people. If you want people to say, she was a great teacher of the Bible, then do not spend all your days watching “reality TV”.
These are just a few examples. Writing your obituary does two things for you :
1. It reminds you of your mortality:
Do not act as though you will be on earth forever. The truth is, no matter how long you live, you will not likely live past 120 years. I currently personally know only three people over 100 years old. By 100 years old people are usually past their prime. You have a certain number of years to live the kind of life that God wants you to live and be known for certain things. You have only a certain number of years to achieve certain things. By the time you are 100 years old, it is too late to try to be known as a good mother/ a good father/ a giver/ a friendly person/ a patient teacher/ a motivator, etc. Why not start doing now what you want to see? Why not start being now, what you see in future?
2. It makes you focused on what is important:
When you die, no one will miss you for how many pairs of shoes you had. No one will miss you for how many cars you drove. No one will miss you for your bank account (unless it enriched them in some way). If you write you obituary, it will keep your eyes on what you need place priority on. Every time you find yourself slipping, you can look at your obituary and rearrange your priorities.
I have written my obituary, have you?